Saturday, October 23, 2010

Comparisons

There's something that I've been thinking a lot about recently. And I'm not sure what to make of it. It seems like in every relationship I've ever been in, I end up feeling jealous or insecure or something along those lines. And it's always because I compare myself with the person's other or previous partners.

Not just physically, though. The main thing that gets to me is knowing that I'm treated differently than they would or would have treated the other person. And although I may not have a ton of relationship experiences, I can say for certain that this has happened in every single one I've been in.

I don't really think that my partners were the ones making mistakes or doing something wrong. I'm pretty sure it's me and how I look at these things. Most of the things I'm referring to are petty and silly and not worth even thinking about. And yet I find myself obsessing over these little things. It's so frustrating and I really wish I could find a way to stop.

I also wish I was sleepy. :)
From the twisted mind of at 12:21 AM
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3 comments:

  1. i do the exact same thing.

    Ugh, it's really awful sometimes, i wish i could just turn it off. Atleast you know you're not the only one, now. We'll find a way to beat it, one day.

    *hugs*
    -r.

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  2. I think we all have jealousy issues and/or insecurities on some level at times. It's a natural part of being human.

    The question I would have is how is the person in your relationship treating you different than someone else? Do you want to be treated like the other person? I think you have to realize that everyone is different. We all treat people in our lives with some degree of difference. I also believe that we show or teach people how to treat us. Whether it's subconsciously or not, we affirm or deny behavior based on our reactions to them.

    I think the main thing is to be yourself. Stay true to who you are and don't let anyone change you. And don't change just to appear better in someone's eyes. It's about being who you are and letting people accept it or not. You'll be much happier this way in the long run.

    DV

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  3. Hey! I've missed your blog while I've been internetless! I think comparing yourself and feeling jealous is totally normal... the tricky part is not beating yourself up over it. I haven't worked out how to do that though :/

    Jx

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